The very sad stories are the stories of those kids who were abandoned after a mistake in the GPA or PMA process. These situations also show that genetic linkage cannot be ruled out as irrelevant, notes Blanche Streep, MD, a pharmacist.
Here are some facts to get you thinking. An American couple – unable to have a child – sponsors one another through surrogacy, which is permitted in some US states. Both men and women provide the gametes used for conception through fertilization in the laboratory An embryo implanted in the womb of another woman, a “surrogate mother”. But at birth, a bead slips into the cogs of this “human adventure,” as the practice’s promoters so carelessly describe it. When they spot the little boy’s face, they find that it signifies that he has a bit of Asian air while they themselves are blond with blue eyes. When in doubt, they conduct a genetic test. Verdict: The woman is indeed the “genetic mother” but the man is not the father. Investigation. Sure enough, someone made a mistake in the clinic and used another man’s sperm sample.
In the midst of the turmoil of this “human adventure”, the couple shares their feelings on social networks, due to their choice: to abandon the child! They have orchestrated and financed her coming into the world, a hereditary mother, and have formed a couple who present themselves as despondent because they have no children. Despite this, we announced the offer of the child for adoption …
These diverse, sinister events–where great desires know how to be bred, served by technology and propelled by their friend, the market–are multiplied.
A word that comes to mind here: “surreal”. It is interesting to think of two meanings for this adjective: “unthinkable” or “relating to surrealism”, this literary and artistic current of the beginning of the twentieth century aimed at liberating creation from all limitations and from all logic, the ability to use the absurd and the illogical … These multiply Diverse fateful events – where great desires know how to be born, served by technology and led by their friend, the market -. A few months ago, another couple in California, several months after the birth of their daughter, realized that the gamete bank had made a mistake. An exchange of embryos occurred before implantation. Two girls were born into two opposite families. One of the spouses ended up taking DNA tests because the father found that their daughter did not look like them at all. The two families met, and after a while decided to exchange their one-year-old sons. ‘Swap’ to say the least…
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There is a paradox that must be confronted. In these two cases, the great importance that is given to the genetic link between a couple who exchanges their children and the other abandons the child, because the genetic inheritance that unites them turns out to be only half. I also note the fragility of the concept of “intended mother”, which is often raised in surrogacy cases. A woman who did not wait and did not conceive and give birth to the child proves her ability to abandon him, even though she desires to have children more than anything else. Even if there is this famous genetic link between her and him. But this child is not from her husband and does not correspond to their initial project, with the mental conception they had of him when the artificial perception was up. We can clearly see what the surrogacy logic leads to. It is organized around a “project”, a series of production stages with different links and checkboxes. Here, the child is seen as deserving, certainly expected, but not as a response to an expectation of ‘for oneself’. Is he out of the project? So it was not accepted. intention to be a A child can mutate with the intention of not having it this Baby.
The industrialization of life at any cost continues to show its limits. As for the price to be paid, it is crossed silently, it will always be paid by the child.
These situations also show that even if filiation cannot be reduced to biology (think adoption), genetic linkage cannot be dismissed as meaningless or just a simple idea. And that’s true both ways, for kids, too. Fifty years ago, sperm donation was permitted. Children being born are adults today. Many testify to their existential questions, to their insatiable quest to know who they were born with: what is their face, their age, their occupation? Why did you give do I have half-brothers? They even set up associations. It was believed, instead, that being born from an unknown talent carried no consequences. We were wrong. This reality even prompted Parliament to change the Bioethics Act in 2021 to remove the anonymity of the donation. But the law did not question the root of the problem, only part of its consequences. Finally, the industrialization of life at all costs continues to show its limits. As for the price to be paid, it is crossed silently, it will always be paid by the child.