Women tend to be more jealous than men of their husbands’ platonic friends

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In romantic relationships, excessive jealousy can be linked to a lack of trust in a partner, fear of losing them, or even possessiveness. It can appear differently depending on the context, but also according to gender. Several psychological studies have revealed that men tend to be more jealous of sexual infidelity, while women are more jealous of emotional infidelity. For the first time, I tried to study the decoding of this phenomenon in the context in which one of the spouses maintains a true platonic friendship (a friend of the opposite sex). The results showed that women tend to be more jealous than men of their partner’s platonic friend, and thus are more concerned about sexual infidelity than emotional infidelity.

Jealousy is present in almost all romantic relationships, and it is a behavioral mechanism that is based on feelings of insecurity and often occurs in the context of a potential competitor. Some people find jealousy a flattery because it shows how much their partner cares about them. Others also use it to “live up” their lives as a couple. However, the disagreements that they can provoke can cause problems within the spouses, by linking them for example to a lack of trust towards the spouse.

Two types of jealousy can appear in a romantic relationship. The first is sexual jealousy, which occurs when a partner has (or could have) an indefinite relationship based exclusively on sex (but without deep feelings) with another person.

According to previous studies, men are more prone to sexual jealousy than women. Men in particular will be afraid of raising offspring that may not be theirs from a genetic point of view, while suffering from the humiliating feeling that they have been deceived.

The second form of jealousy in spouses is emotional jealousy, which appears when the partner maintains an emotional relationship (without a sexual relationship) with another person. This type of jealousy will occur more among women than among men, because the latter will feel that he no longer holds the exclusive feeling of love towards his wife. There will thus be a fear of losing the benefits associated with the relationship, because these women’s access to resources that should belong to them (and also to the children) may be attributed to other women. These benefits can be emotional as well as physical.

The degree of jealousy can be influenced by the attraction that competitors (or potential competitors) may cause. The partner may feel more threatened because these competitors are considered more attractive (from a physical point of view, attractive, physical, etc.). The new study is published in the journal Since a platonic friend can also be considered a competitor Evolutionary behavioral sciences He tries to conduct a psychological analysis of this aspect of jealousy that is still incomplete.

Women, more sexually than emotionally jealous in the context of platonic friendship

The new study was led by the University of Texas at Austin, and included 365 participants recruited through the Amazon Mechanical Turk platform. All participants were married at the time of the study, resided in the United States, were at least 18 years old and were all native English speakers. They were randomly assigned to four groups, as they read different scenarios where they imagined their spouses forming a new friendship of the opposite sex.

The results showed, unsurprisingly, that feelings of jealousy were more intense when the new friend was of the same gender as the participant (and thus of the opposite sex of the husband’s gender). However, generally higher levels of jealousy (compared to men) were observed in women, indicating that feelings of jealousy in women are more related to attraction.

Women who are jealous of their partner’s friend may also fear seeing their status as mothers (or future mothers) threatened, which can likely be explained by the fact that a man’s friend needs a certain form of dependency and commitment somewhat similar to those. lavishes on women, such as the fact of devoting time, affection or perhaps material contributions.

Additionally, the researchers found that men were more emotionally (rather than sexual) affected when their partner’s boyfriend was considered more attractive, regardless of the friend’s gender. The new research suggests that this may be because a wife’s girlfriend can become a better potential mate, while an attractive boyfriend can act as a “wing girl” (the friend who is easy to reach/meet men).

In contrast to previous work that showed men in general are more jealous of sexual infidelity, this study showed no gender differences in sexual jealousy. However, according to the study authors, women’s sexual jealousy would be higher than their emotional jealousy in the context of platonic friendship.

However, it should be borne in mind that the study concerns only married couples. So results can vary in a marital relationship without marriage. Also, neither the number of friends outside marriage, nor the cases where there are no friends of the opposite sex were taken into account. Finally, only participants who reported some degree of jealousy completed the jealousy referral items in the tests, which limits the scope of the analysis.

Source: Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences

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