by Jessica Morens
We hear more and more about toxic relationships in love but also in friendship and even within the same family… But how do we recognize these unhealthy relationships when you’re in them? You are given some signs that are generally unmistakable.
Toxic relationships don’t just happen between couples. Sometimes, friendship or even family can be toxic and do nothing, except make you suffer from the situation. But actually in the context of love we often think of this idea. However, the habits that harm self-esteem are often the same, regardless of the nature of the relationship.
But how do you know you’re in a toxic relationship? It is clear that all the perversion of these relationships lies in the fact that we do not realize it, or do not immediately realize it. It is not physical violence but psychological violence that leads to the influence of one partner on the other.
Humiliation, denigration, low self-esteem … Toxic partners attack a person’s self-confidence, to the point of destroying it completely. It is also for this reason that their “victims” are unaware of what is happening to them and believe that they cannot live without their partner. In general, once the relationship ends we realize that it was toxic.
Here are the signs that usually mean you’re in a toxic relationship
- Your partner is very nice at first: He tempts you, flirts, gives you gifts, etc. The goal is to develop some kind of complicity to give you the impression that you are in a healthy relationship.
- He sets himself on the basis: He gives you the impression and tells you that he’s not “just anyone” and that he makes you feel like it’s a real privilege to share his life. He will not fail to point that at you once he has the chance, telling you that you will never find better than this, and that your life would be zero without him.
- It still holds you responsible for everything: When you express your discomfort in the relationship, he always blames you and makes you feel guilty.
- Fear of abandonment: People who find themselves in a controlling relationship are often emotionally dependent on others, afraid to let go and willing to do anything for love and affection.
- you are not calm You always feel like a threat is taking over you and feel that your relationship will end at the slightest bit of trouble. He is also apathetic and even insensitive when you feel bad about yourself or when you are sick.
- You apologize to him for everything: Whatever he says or does, you always make excuses for him and fool yourself into thinking he’s actually going to change.
- You are obsessed with: You think about it all the time, all day. So it turns into an obsession. But you still feel uncomfortable thinking about it and your thoughts aren’t always positive.
- you are isolated: You have given up on your friends and are no longer doing your favorite sport or activity. You completely live in his world and even embrace his centers of interest and frequent acquaintances.
- criticize you: He criticizes everything all the time. You, your friends, your family, your work… He uses unpleasant phrases but keeps a sweet voice. He has the gift of underestimating you and undermining your morale, while lowering your self-esteem.
- Everything is always complicated: Whether it’s figuring out which movie to watch, what gift to give or what to eat, it’s always complicated and often ends in confusion. It’s simple, he never agrees with you, and you usually end up giving up and doing whatever he wants.
- feel depressed You have the impression that you have lost your joy in life, you feel tired, your lack of enthusiasm … It seems that the influence of your partner affects you especially.